Teacher, Writer/Author & Leader
Bio: Nilsa Sophronia Crosby is a teacher, a writer and a leader. Personable, charismatic, and people-oriented, she has been successful teaching everything from job readiness to Standard English. As a writer, she recently published her memoir entitled – Five Loves: Stories of Misguided Love, Lust and Betrayal an emotionally powerful, brutally honest memoir that chronicles the harrowing journey of a young woman’s life long search to find true love.
After graduating from the City University of New York (CUNY) with high honors and receiving a Bachelor’s Degree in English, Ms. Crosby entered the non-profit arena. She has been invaluable with prominent organizations including the New York Urban League, The Community Service Society of New York as well as Neighborhood Housing Services of New York City.
After earning a Master’s Degree in Secondary Education from City University of New York, she became a teacher of English as a Second Language making the transition from College and Career coach with the Department of Education in NYC. For the last three years she has taught English and language acquisition to students from around the world who recently relocated to the United States.
Nilsa was born and raised in New York City and currently lives in Staten Island with her two sons where she enjoys reading, writing and travel.
Interview with Nilsa Crosby
Dhylles Davis: Who is Nilsa Crosby?
Nilsa Crosby: Nilsa Crosby is a fearless woman of God and a believer in reinvention and the ability to transform your life. She is a lifelong learner who is constantly looking to strengthen and better herself and those around her.
Dhylles: When did you realize you were born an accomplishment?
Nilsa: I realized I was a born accomplishment very late in life. In my younger years, I allowed other people to define me. I was defined by my career, my friends and especially the men who crossed my path and altered my life. It wasn’t until I gained the strength and courage to speak openly and tell my story that I realized God’s plan for my life. It has been a gradual process, but I can say over the last several years I’ve developed clarity and sense of peace about what God would have me accomplish as I help myself and others.
Dhylles: Use one word to describe who you are and why?
The one word I would use to describe myself is Fearless. When I say I’m fearless, I don’t mean to imply that I don’t experience fear, it means I don’t allow it to stop me from accomplishing my goals.
I am fearless because even though I’ve had a series of difficult relationships with broken men including a turbulent and verbally abusive 15 year marriage, it wasn’t until I was so afraid, sad and depressed that I decided to go to God and ask him for an exit strategy. I started reading books on fear and tapped in to why I was afraid to leave. I know what it’s like to be lost and afraid. I know what it’s like to feel trapped and I know what it’s like to question your ability to ever be free from fear and hurt. Yet, with God I fearlessly walked away. God provided a way out of my toxic relationship for me and my two children and orchestrated it in such a way that it could only be Him. He provided a better job, more money and a safe place for us to live. Not only did I survive, I came out stronger ,wiser and more determined. Through my journey, I became clear about the very specific steps women need to take to begin to love their selves and claim their freedom.
Dhylles: How did I make my dream a reality?
Nilsa: I made my dream a reality by having the courage to tell my story. I tell it in a raw, graphic and detailed way in an attempt to help other young girls and women who find themselves in similar circumstances. I just simply decided to stop covering it up and pretending everything was alright. I decided to air out my wounds, so they could heal. Subsequently, I have had women as far away as the UK and as close as next door thank me for my bravery and helping change lives.
As an extension of that, in the Fall of 2015 I will launch my nonprofit organization called BLOSSOM and my mission is to help young girls develop, nurture and maintain self-love so they too can live fearless lives.
Dhylles: How long did it take for me to accept my imperfections and what held me back from accepting?
Nilsa: It took a number of years to accept my imperfections because I was concerned about what other people thought. I wanted to be perceived as the perfect wife, mother, worker, etc. So, I went to great lengths to conceal my imperfections only to realize latter that my imperfections are what make me perfect and unique. Once my book was published and the imperfections in my life were displayed for the world to see – I was really able to experience a level of freedom I never knew existed.
Dhylles: Thanks so much Nilsa for sharing!
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